Recently I have had lunch, coffee, or simple conversation (without a meal or beverage) with people who have been wounded by the church. It is easier to say “the church” than to name individuals but it still comes down to an individual or group of individuals and it usually involves someone in leadership.
I have also read numerous blogs and other media that have expressed deep hurt and anger toward “the church” for hurts the authors have experienced.
I have no official position, no clout. I am only one Jesus-follower but I want to say to those who have been wounded, “I’m sorry.”
I’m sorry for those who have used the name of Jesus to fleece others and line their own pockets
I’m sorry that we have often been more judgmental and condemning than loving and redeeming.
I’m sorry for those who have abused their authority in the name of Christ.
I’m sorry that we have often spent so little time listening to the concerns of the world around us.
I’m sorry for the times we have answered questions of empty cliches instead of solid answers.
I’m sorry we have often represented Jesus so poorly.
I have been in Christian ministry for nearly 40 years. My faith is stronger than ever but I have been listening to many who do not share my faith. Some were once believers. Some were seekers. In many cases their faith and their desire to seek was turned off by the actions or attitudes of those professing to be Christ-followers.
While none of us are perfect, we serve One who is. We are to grow to be more like Him. We cannot use our imperfection as an excuse to wound others. I pray the Lord will give us grace to admit our weaknesses, the courage to allow Him to change us, a heart to love as He loved us.
May 21, 2008 at 4:50 am
Thanks, Tom. I really appreciate your blog-you have much to say and it is valuable for me to hear it. Karin
May 21, 2008 at 5:05 pm
I’m humbled. You have been writing so well about your journey. I pray for you and feel privileged to call you and Jerry “friends.”
June 7, 2008 at 9:33 pm
‘Sorry seems to be the hardest word …’
Reconciliation begins with repentance. I wonder how many times I’ve hurt others in the name of ministry?
June 8, 2008 at 1:10 pm
I grieve when I hear the anger (which usually hides wounds) that some have toward the Church and Christians. I know it must grieve the Lord when His followers have so wounded others that they have rejected Him.